None
can deny the parents' favor upon their children. The parents are the
underlying reason for the existence of the child. They have reared him
in his babyhood and experienced painstaking efforts to provide full
comfort and sound well-being. Your mother had you in her womb while you
were a parasite there sharing her food and whole being for nine months.
In this context, Allah says:
"And We have
enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother
bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship..." (31:14)
It is a
preliminary stage followed by incubation and breast feeding for two
years marked by peculiar fatigue and hardships. The father, on his
part, is meanwhile also fully engaged catering for his child and
bringing him up, not sparing any sort of instructions or guidance he
could provide his child with; the child, meanwhile, a helpless creature
is neither harmful nor useful to himself.
Allah has always enjoined that children should be good and thankful to their parents and He says:
"And
We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His
mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship,
and his weaning is in two years - give thanks to Me and to your
parents, - unto Me is the final destination." (31:14)
"...
And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them
attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor
shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them
the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord!
Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small."
(17:23, 24)
The right of
parents upon you is to do good with them. You should be good to them
physically as well as monetarily, and also with your words and your
actions. You should be obedient to them unless in it there is
disobedience to your Lord or there is some harm to you. Be kindhearted
to them and serve them as they need your help. In their old age, in
case of any ailment or weakness, never consider them a burden on you,
neither speak to them harshly, because one day you will also become as
old as they are. You will be a father as they are your parents and, if
life permits, soon you will be an old man before your children just
like your parents became old before you. So you need the help of your
children as your parents need you today. If you are doing good to your
parents then you must have the good news of a great reward and a better
showing from your children, because whoever remained good to his
parents, his children will also be good to him; and whoever annoyed his
parents, will also be annoyed by his children. It is the process of
recompense that deeds provide the results accordingly "as you sow, so
will you reap. Allah has ranked the rights due to the parents high next
only to His and the Prophet's, Allah says:
"Worship Allah and join none with Him in worship, and do good to parents..." (4:36)
And Allah also says:
"...give thanks to Me and to your parents... (31:14)
Being dutiful to
one's parents assumes priority even over Jihad (fight in the cause of
Allah) as is narrated in the tradition of Ibn Mas'ood when he
asked the Prophet (p.b.u.h.):
"Which deed is
most beloved by Allah?" He said, 'Observing prayer in time.' "And next
to that?" He said: 'Being dutiful to one's parents.' "And next to
that?" He answered: 'Jihad (fight in the cause of Allah).'"
This Hadith
(Prophetic saying) reported by Bukhari and Muslim points directly to
the significance of the rights due to one's parents.
Unfortunately,
most people have forgotten these rights, instead disobedience and
severance of ties have risen to harden the hearts, and even they
contempt and detest their parents. Some people have even deemed
themselves superior to those two old good creatures. A recompense is
sure in store for those disobedient children, sooner or later.
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